Starting School

1. Be prepared

The most useful thing you can do to get your child ready for school is to make sure they are comfortable doing simple tasks by themselves. This includes:

  • Going to the toilet. Resist the temptation to pop your child onto the loo and wipe their bottom. It is better to get your child into the habit of doing this for themselves.
  • Getting dressed. Avoid clothing with fiddly buckles and buttons. It is also a good idea to have a few dry runs with the PE Kit!
  • Putting on shoes. Tie-up shoes might be a bit difficult. Go for shoes with Velcro fasteners if possible or elastic laces.
  • Eating. This includes using a knife and fork, opening their lunchbox and being able to open everything in the lunchbox – some yoghurt tubes and drink cartons can be tricky.
  • Solving simple problems. Encourage your child to resolve problems by talking when they don't understand or something isn't going well. It is important that they also learn when to ask an adult for help.

2. Build up your child's social skills

Learning in a classroom is a social activity. Children learn and develop by playing alongside their peers, and they will make better progress if they are happy mixing with other children and adults. You can encourage this by:

  • Organising play dates (Subject to lock down relaxation). Play dates with children from your child’s new class help improve their social skills and makes the leap to primary school less scary – they will like knowing one or two of their classmates before school begins.
  • Practising greetings. Your child should know how to start a conversation with their new classmates. You can use dolls and soft toys to practise saying "hello"!
  • Practising conversations. Giving your child time to talk – and also time when they have to listen – teaches vital speaking and listening skills. You could take turns to talk about the best part of your day over the dinner table. Can they ask questions to find out more? Can they remember what their sibling's favourite part of the day was?
  • Encouraging sharing and tolerance. Sharing games such as Snakes and Ladders let children practise social skills and turn-taking. Be sure to use the language of turn-taking, like 'Whose turn is it next?' and 'Thank you for waiting'.

3. Make a start on early literacy and numeracy skills

Your child is not expected to have amazing literacy or numeracy skills at this age – that’s what school is for! However, there are some ways you can get your child ready for learning:

  • Help them recognise their name. It’s handy if your child can find their space in the cloakroom, and can keep track of labelled clothes and other belongings.
  • Share stories. Reading to your child improves their vocabulary and listening skills, and acting out stories is a great way to practise communication. Seeing you enjoy stories also primes your child to be an enthusiastic reader. You can find storytelling videos on the Oxford Owl YouTube channel 
  • Hone fine motor skills. Developing hand strength, fine motor skills and hand-eye co-ordination all helps prepare your child for writing. Making Lego models, using scissors, and threading beads or pasta onto string are fun ways to develop hand strength. Drawing and colouring activities are good for introducing children to mark-making tools.
  • Introduce them to numbers. Why not go on a number hunt around your local area and take pictures of any numbers you find? You could also share counting songs together or count objects as you set the table for dinner. Can your child get five forks or three cups out? Can they share them between members of the family?

4. Help your child learn to concentrate

Your child being able to concentrate in 10–15 minute bursts will really help them learn. Here are some ways to practise:

  • Enjoy extended play together. Building kits like Lego are great for encouraging your child's resilience, especially if they can finish the activity in one sitting. Race-the-clock games are good for improving concentration (and are helpful when you need to be somewhere on time and need your child to get their socks and shoes on quickly!).
  • Follow instructions. Giving your child simple instructions to follow helps build their concentration. Why not have a go at some of these child-friendly recipes

5. Talk to your child about school

Visit BBC Bitesize (link below) for a child friendly starting school game for a fun way to start the conversation.

Talking about the exciting things your child is going to do at school helps limit any nerves. You could:

  • Visit the school (Subject to lock down relaxation). Some schools have induction visits for children to meet their new teacher and spend time in the classroom. If they don't, do ask to have a tour with your child. Walking or driving past the school at the end of the school day and watching children come out in uniform can also be very exciting!
  • Talk about how fun school is! If you’ve been on a settling-in morning, there might be something your child particularly enjoyed playing with (the dinosaurs, the paints and the climbing frame). Older siblings could be enlisted to share all the things they enjoy about school – as long as they’re thoroughly briefed not to share things they’re not so keen on! Giving your child time to talk also lets them raise any concerns or questions.
  • Practise the school routine. It can be helpful to do a practice journey before the big day, looking for interesting things on the way. It might be a good idea to make sure your child has school-friendly bedtimes and getting-up times a few days in advance.

My starting school check list:

See how many things your child can do using the form below - don't worry if they can't do them all, tick them off as they can and watch their progress.